How many times have you tried to shove a square peg in a round hole?
It just doesn't work.
The more we work and fret and force things to happen in OUR timely fashion, the longer the outcome usually takes and, more times than not, it is nothing like what we had hoped it to be.
We must learn to relax. We learn to travel, on faith, that if we listen to that little voice in our head (and in our heart), we will get where we are supposed to go, in the manner we're supposed to get there, in the time frame meant for reaching our desired destination.
Usually, when we attempt to "make" things happen, we dilute the process. We weaken the bridge we need to travel, and we alter the course altogether. Far too frequently, we neglect to walk in sync with what we know is right.
Do not become discouraged when things get messy. It is often when you are at your wit's end that you find the answers you are seeking. When you are so near to giving up that a simple, single ray of sunshine leads you where you ought to be. When you have all but given up hope, that a helping hand reaches into your murk and lifts you to your feet.
Don't be a square peg.