Recently, I was doubting a commitment I had made. I wasn't sure if things were going to go in a positive direction or take a dive. I should just practice what I preach. I know my faith in others stands strong and that was proven repeatedly. I need to work on my faith in myself. Folks have stepped up and stood out and demonstrated a drive and dedication that made me feel like a proud momma. It was a wonderful thing to witness.
Be careful what you water your dreams with. Soak them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Shower them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success.
I am just adoring my garden of wonders! Thanks folks!
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
Monday, July 30, 2012
Fear
Fear is just NOT productive! It permits question, doubt, self-loathing, and hesitation. Don't ever be afraid to do something new or different or challenging. You might have a cautious anxiety about what might occur if you pursue your dreams but . . .
Don't be afraid that something will happen, be afraid that nothing will happen.
Jump in! Both feet! You can overcome whatever stands in front of you - if you believe you can succeed!
Don't be afraid that something will happen, be afraid that nothing will happen.
Jump in! Both feet! You can overcome whatever stands in front of you - if you believe you can succeed!
Saturday, July 28, 2012
Together
I, unfortunately, missed a majority of the Opening Ceremony because I was at work. I did, however, get a very detailed recap from my son and husband. I wish I had been able to watch it myself, but I did see a majority of the Parade of Nations through the ending of the ceremony.
Paul McCartney getting choked up almost sent me over the edge. To see and hear the crowd as Great Britain entered the stadium made me all warm and fuzzy. For those of you that see the Olympics as a political pawn piece . . . you ought to change your vantage point.
These are athletes, from around the globe, with indifference to the size of their delegation, who come together to show the world their efforts. So many stories of courage and just becoming champions of their country, advocates of their countrymen, and spokesmen for their sports. They have lost 'self' in pursuit of their dreams. I find it so compellingly heart-wrenching to watch the seemingly toughest of athletes cry like babies when their national anthem is played. It drives home the endeavors they have achieved but also shows how far from self-serving those endeavors are.
I am hoping that these Games are safe and free from outside nonsense. I hope that you root for the United States, but at the same time, that you cheer on EVERY athlete in their efforts. I so want to see Usain Bolt run, literally, like the wind ~ but he's got competition this year. I would love to see Phelps and Lochte sweep everything but there are, I'm sure, contenders out there. The men's gymnastic team has promise this year, but they must defeat their constant nemeses who are working their tails off to stay in their position. The women's gymnastic team is poised for great things; but gymnastics is a game of minutia . . . absolutely EVERYTHING counts. The Dream Team Incarnate will take to the court in hopes of a repeat. Sometimes, it's just watching the congealing of greatness that brings awe to your television.
Forget politics for two weeks plus. Forget the incessant negative ads that plague the air waves. Instead, focus on the athletes. Focus on their efforts. Cheer on your favorites. Cheer on your country. Cheer! It is a time when all these nations and athletes come together as ONE active body. It is beautiful!
Paul McCartney getting choked up almost sent me over the edge. To see and hear the crowd as Great Britain entered the stadium made me all warm and fuzzy. For those of you that see the Olympics as a political pawn piece . . . you ought to change your vantage point.
These are athletes, from around the globe, with indifference to the size of their delegation, who come together to show the world their efforts. So many stories of courage and just becoming champions of their country, advocates of their countrymen, and spokesmen for their sports. They have lost 'self' in pursuit of their dreams. I find it so compellingly heart-wrenching to watch the seemingly toughest of athletes cry like babies when their national anthem is played. It drives home the endeavors they have achieved but also shows how far from self-serving those endeavors are.
I am hoping that these Games are safe and free from outside nonsense. I hope that you root for the United States, but at the same time, that you cheer on EVERY athlete in their efforts. I so want to see Usain Bolt run, literally, like the wind ~ but he's got competition this year. I would love to see Phelps and Lochte sweep everything but there are, I'm sure, contenders out there. The men's gymnastic team has promise this year, but they must defeat their constant nemeses who are working their tails off to stay in their position. The women's gymnastic team is poised for great things; but gymnastics is a game of minutia . . . absolutely EVERYTHING counts. The Dream Team Incarnate will take to the court in hopes of a repeat. Sometimes, it's just watching the congealing of greatness that brings awe to your television.
Forget politics for two weeks plus. Forget the incessant negative ads that plague the air waves. Instead, focus on the athletes. Focus on their efforts. Cheer on your favorites. Cheer on your country. Cheer! It is a time when all these nations and athletes come together as ONE active body. It is beautiful!
Friday, July 27, 2012
The thrill of victory . . .
and the agony of defeat!
Tonight begins the Summer Olympic games and I know there will be millions of eyes glued to the tv sets watching the ceremony. Unfortunately, I will be working this evening, and as much as I would love to watch the Opening Ceremony, I am completely stoked to be absorbing all the sports that will be coming afterward.
To witness all the record-breaking, the tears, the sweat, the dedication and to listen to all those heart-wrenching stories of tenacity and grit for just a few moments of competing at something these athletes truly adore, is very empowering! Sometimes those wins are by only milliseconds or by hundredths or thousandths of points. It is truly awe inspiring.
Of course, we'll be glued to gymnastics, track & field, swimming and water polo. What will you be watching?
Tonight begins the Summer Olympic games and I know there will be millions of eyes glued to the tv sets watching the ceremony. Unfortunately, I will be working this evening, and as much as I would love to watch the Opening Ceremony, I am completely stoked to be absorbing all the sports that will be coming afterward.
To witness all the record-breaking, the tears, the sweat, the dedication and to listen to all those heart-wrenching stories of tenacity and grit for just a few moments of competing at something these athletes truly adore, is very empowering! Sometimes those wins are by only milliseconds or by hundredths or thousandths of points. It is truly awe inspiring.
Of course, we'll be glued to gymnastics, track & field, swimming and water polo. What will you be watching?
Thursday, July 26, 2012
PDF Syndrome
'The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to use the stairs . . . one step at a time.'
by Joe Girard
More times than not, whatever issues you might be facing certainly did not occur overnight. It will not be by crossing your arms, nodding your head, and blinking that you find your way out of them. The only way out of any issue is perseverance, determination, and fortitude . . . PDF syndrome!
I'm hoping you all are suffering from PDF syndrome! I wish you tenacity, faith, dedication, and persistence in fighting whatever ails you, facing whatever defies you, and beating whatever lies ahead of you!
by Joe Girard
More times than not, whatever issues you might be facing certainly did not occur overnight. It will not be by crossing your arms, nodding your head, and blinking that you find your way out of them. The only way out of any issue is perseverance, determination, and fortitude . . . PDF syndrome!
I'm hoping you all are suffering from PDF syndrome! I wish you tenacity, faith, dedication, and persistence in fighting whatever ails you, facing whatever defies you, and beating whatever lies ahead of you!
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Heaven on Earth
I actually saw this little snippet on a friend's post today and it resonated quite profoundly with me. Maybe it's due to all this negative political nonsense. Maybe it's because of the senseless, hurtful act that took place in Colorado. Maybe it's because of the constant bickering about who is right and who is wrong, when a majority of those types of arguments are very personal and have no true conclusion or definitive winner.
"Heaven on Earth . . . it is a choice we make, not a place we must find."
If you want peace, practice peace. If you want love and acceptance, practice love and acceptance. You cannot forcibly shove your ideals down anyone's throat. That kind of defeats the purpose. Practice all the things you preach. Be the change you wish to see in the world. Set the example for others to follow. When your head is on straight, and you are certain of your motives and your ideals, there is no reason to fight, to bicker, to be so negative.
Love you all!
"Heaven on Earth . . . it is a choice we make, not a place we must find."
If you want peace, practice peace. If you want love and acceptance, practice love and acceptance. You cannot forcibly shove your ideals down anyone's throat. That kind of defeats the purpose. Practice all the things you preach. Be the change you wish to see in the world. Set the example for others to follow. When your head is on straight, and you are certain of your motives and your ideals, there is no reason to fight, to bicker, to be so negative.
Love you all!
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Persistence
Today's tidbit is short and sweet and does not need a lot of embellishment. It is along those very elusive lines of not ever giving up. Thomas Edison very eloquently said:
I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
Persistence. Nothing more needs to be said!
I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
Persistence. Nothing more needs to be said!
Monday, July 23, 2012
Refuge
Refuge!
Everyone needs a place of refuge. A place where you can either hide, or unwind, or let loose, or relax, or refresh, or recharge . . . or all of the above!
It might be a good book, a quiet room, a comfy chair. It may be beside a babbling brook, sunbathing in a poolside chaise, working in your garden. It may be getting lost in the Word, sitting hand-in-hand with your love, playing the piano, drawing, taking photos, or perhaps just taking a long, long walk. It could be just some quick meditation, a few deep breaths, or a lengthy jog. That secret place of refuge is different for every person. But it is a vital place to visit and you need to visit it EVERY day.
Recharging your body, soul, and mind is not only crucial to your own existence, but it helps your interaction with others. When you have yourself whole and intact, you are better able to help others find their happy place. It's just a win-win. It's even better when you have several little havens that you can duck into when you need a little respite. No preparation, just a quick little pick-you-up when you need it most. Sometimes, simply closing your eyes and wiping your mind clear of all the nonsense absolutely works wonders!
Find your refuge. Visit it frequently. Enjoy it! Embrace it!
Everyone needs a place of refuge. A place where you can either hide, or unwind, or let loose, or relax, or refresh, or recharge . . . or all of the above!
It might be a good book, a quiet room, a comfy chair. It may be beside a babbling brook, sunbathing in a poolside chaise, working in your garden. It may be getting lost in the Word, sitting hand-in-hand with your love, playing the piano, drawing, taking photos, or perhaps just taking a long, long walk. It could be just some quick meditation, a few deep breaths, or a lengthy jog. That secret place of refuge is different for every person. But it is a vital place to visit and you need to visit it EVERY day.
Recharging your body, soul, and mind is not only crucial to your own existence, but it helps your interaction with others. When you have yourself whole and intact, you are better able to help others find their happy place. It's just a win-win. It's even better when you have several little havens that you can duck into when you need a little respite. No preparation, just a quick little pick-you-up when you need it most. Sometimes, simply closing your eyes and wiping your mind clear of all the nonsense absolutely works wonders!
Find your refuge. Visit it frequently. Enjoy it! Embrace it!
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Sense of the Senseless
Sometimes, VERY bad things happen. Humans tend to want everything neatly and categorically explained, boxed up, and put away so as not to have to mull it over too much. We like there to be a reason, a justification, or a defining cause to horrific events, catastrophes, or wrong-doings. It is truly against all human nature to perpetrate the likes of the wickedness that took place in Colorado just a short while ago.
We cannot fathom what would cause another human being to do what this person did. We cannot fathom the likes of the actions of the Columbine shooter, the mom who drove her two boys into the lake, the mother who drown all of her children, and the countless other stories of this nature. How do we begin to make sense of the senseless?
I believe the first step is to realize that making sense of the senseless is impossible! No one will ever really know what drives people to do these things. No matter the source of their troubles, does it really constitute their actions? No matter the hurt they have suffered, do they not understand the multitudes their actions effect? Whatever pains and problems they've faced, do they not have a choice?
I will never pretend to understand the actions of others. Especially those who turn to such horrific atrocities as that of the movie shooter. I find solace only in knowing that prayer and faith and God will lead those who are suffering. Hurt and loss doesn't ever truly go away, but stepping forward in the faith that God has a purposeful twist to it all does help. It doesn't make it better. It doesn't make it OK. It doesn't shorten the grief or lighten the sorrows, but it is a comfort that will envelope you, should you allow it.
My heart and my prayers are with all those victims out there. Some are lost to send a message. Jessica's words are truly inspiring and provocatively heart wrenching. Some are made into unwilling heroes simply trying to do the right thing. Futures are lost and hearts are broken, but God offers peace to those who are patient enough to accept it.
And no . . . there is just no way to make Sense of the Senseless.
We cannot fathom what would cause another human being to do what this person did. We cannot fathom the likes of the actions of the Columbine shooter, the mom who drove her two boys into the lake, the mother who drown all of her children, and the countless other stories of this nature. How do we begin to make sense of the senseless?
I believe the first step is to realize that making sense of the senseless is impossible! No one will ever really know what drives people to do these things. No matter the source of their troubles, does it really constitute their actions? No matter the hurt they have suffered, do they not understand the multitudes their actions effect? Whatever pains and problems they've faced, do they not have a choice?
I will never pretend to understand the actions of others. Especially those who turn to such horrific atrocities as that of the movie shooter. I find solace only in knowing that prayer and faith and God will lead those who are suffering. Hurt and loss doesn't ever truly go away, but stepping forward in the faith that God has a purposeful twist to it all does help. It doesn't make it better. It doesn't make it OK. It doesn't shorten the grief or lighten the sorrows, but it is a comfort that will envelope you, should you allow it.
My heart and my prayers are with all those victims out there. Some are lost to send a message. Jessica's words are truly inspiring and provocatively heart wrenching. Some are made into unwilling heroes simply trying to do the right thing. Futures are lost and hearts are broken, but God offers peace to those who are patient enough to accept it.
And no . . . there is just no way to make Sense of the Senseless.
Friday, July 20, 2012
Infectious!
Infectious!
No one wants a cold or the flu or anything else that can be passed from one sick person to another. No one wants to be sneezed at, coughed on, or be touching what some ill person just handled. But . . . there are other things that are also infectious!
Smiles.
Laughter.
Hugs.
A good attitude.
A good deed.
Kindness.
Joy.
Tenderness.
Understanding.
Prayers.
Faith.
Love.
Be infectious today!
No one wants a cold or the flu or anything else that can be passed from one sick person to another. No one wants to be sneezed at, coughed on, or be touching what some ill person just handled. But . . . there are other things that are also infectious!
Smiles.
Laughter.
Hugs.
A good attitude.
A good deed.
Kindness.
Joy.
Tenderness.
Understanding.
Prayers.
Faith.
Love.
Be infectious today!
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Strength
Strength is truly a multifaceted item.
Having dabbled in body-building and strength training, strength can literally mean 'what weight you are able to push, pull, lift, drag, squat, curl,' etc. In my glory days, I did pretty impressively weighing in at 112 pounds and squatting over 200. As of just a few years ago, I could do leg press over 400 pounds. Since the shoulders are shot from too much golf, tennis, and gymnastics - the arms never quite caught up to that level of weight lifting, but I can hold my own, thank you very much!
But strength, as I said, is multifaceted. It does not always refer to the literal weight you can move. Sometimes, it refers to the metaphorical weight you carry! I believe completely that there is not a person out there that cannot move mountains should they believe they can. There is much to overcome in this world. You cannot overcome it with handouts. You cannot overcome hardships on the backs of others. You cannot overcome obstacles by wishing and hoping. You have to find that inner strength to improve.
That would start with the simple initiative to wake up each day! If you've done that, you're on your way. Next, remember that you're never fully dressed without a smile. It doesn't matter what fears or foes you face. A positive attitude is more powerful than Arnold's biceps any day! Head up and eyes forward. If you can't see where you're going, you're likely not to get there. Know that the strength that lies within you is directly proportionate to whatever you might be challenged with . . . and then some! You really can do whatever you choose to do.
Today, I wish for you, the power of you! I hope you truly accept what you have within you. The power to rise above petty issues; the power to realize your own value; the power to make a difference. Whether you need help opening the pickle jar or not, the strength that lies at your core is amazing. Amaze yourself and let it out!
Having dabbled in body-building and strength training, strength can literally mean 'what weight you are able to push, pull, lift, drag, squat, curl,' etc. In my glory days, I did pretty impressively weighing in at 112 pounds and squatting over 200. As of just a few years ago, I could do leg press over 400 pounds. Since the shoulders are shot from too much golf, tennis, and gymnastics - the arms never quite caught up to that level of weight lifting, but I can hold my own, thank you very much!
But strength, as I said, is multifaceted. It does not always refer to the literal weight you can move. Sometimes, it refers to the metaphorical weight you carry! I believe completely that there is not a person out there that cannot move mountains should they believe they can. There is much to overcome in this world. You cannot overcome it with handouts. You cannot overcome hardships on the backs of others. You cannot overcome obstacles by wishing and hoping. You have to find that inner strength to improve.
That would start with the simple initiative to wake up each day! If you've done that, you're on your way. Next, remember that you're never fully dressed without a smile. It doesn't matter what fears or foes you face. A positive attitude is more powerful than Arnold's biceps any day! Head up and eyes forward. If you can't see where you're going, you're likely not to get there. Know that the strength that lies within you is directly proportionate to whatever you might be challenged with . . . and then some! You really can do whatever you choose to do.
Today, I wish for you, the power of you! I hope you truly accept what you have within you. The power to rise above petty issues; the power to realize your own value; the power to make a difference. Whether you need help opening the pickle jar or not, the strength that lies at your core is amazing. Amaze yourself and let it out!
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Content
I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content.
~ Philippians 4:11-12
When I lived in New York, one of five kids to a single mom, there were many a night when mac and cheese was a gourmet feast. When I moved to Georgia, I survived ~ I kid you not ~ on Vienna Finger cookies for three weeks. Thank goodness my mom bought me a treat for the road. If not for that package of cookies, I might not be here now! When we moved to Florida my little baby boy was diagnosed with a life threatening auto-immune disease. Your world kind of stops rotating when you get news like that.
When my mom remarried, they opened up a graphics business and it really did quite well. Mac and cheese was an option only if we chose it. After I found a job in Georgia, I also found my husband, and we dined around Atlanta quite often. It's quite a tasty city! And, in Florida, my son overcame his obstacles and we gained terrific insight into the obligation of giving back and reciprocating to not only the medical staff and hospital, but also the Dream Fund and the tremendous network of friends who helped us through.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.
I am content!
I wish the same for you!
~ Philippians 4:11-12
When I lived in New York, one of five kids to a single mom, there were many a night when mac and cheese was a gourmet feast. When I moved to Georgia, I survived ~ I kid you not ~ on Vienna Finger cookies for three weeks. Thank goodness my mom bought me a treat for the road. If not for that package of cookies, I might not be here now! When we moved to Florida my little baby boy was diagnosed with a life threatening auto-immune disease. Your world kind of stops rotating when you get news like that.
When my mom remarried, they opened up a graphics business and it really did quite well. Mac and cheese was an option only if we chose it. After I found a job in Georgia, I also found my husband, and we dined around Atlanta quite often. It's quite a tasty city! And, in Florida, my son overcame his obstacles and we gained terrific insight into the obligation of giving back and reciprocating to not only the medical staff and hospital, but also the Dream Fund and the tremendous network of friends who helped us through.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.
I am content!
I wish the same for you!
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Yeah Mon!
Just spent nearly a week in Jamaica with hubby for our 22nd wedding anniversary!
It is VERY easy to become absorbed into their culture. It is so in-tune with the things that I believe in. "No Worries!" "No problem, mon!" It's all good, no matter what it is. I did not see a single Jamaican soul who was harried, out-of-sorts, frazzled, or excited. They just take absolutely everything in stride!
It is a very diversified country, rich in history and heritage. They are a proud and beautiful people. They live in the moment and from their soul. It was just a very warmly enveloping place to relax and unwind and it happened VERY quickly. From the moment you hit the door, you've got your beverage in hand and you literally have 'no worries, mon'.
We enjoyed a private island for lunch and dinner on our Anniversary. We went kayaking, bob-sledding, zip-lining, sky-tramming, and did tons of exploring, walking, and photographing. We waded through local craftspeople trying to sell their wares, some of which were VERY interesting! We climbed Dunns River Falls - a highly recommended activity should you be in the area. I haven't laughed that hard, while working so vigorously, in the midst of being so inspired by natural beauty! It was absolutely fantastic!
We made some fabulous and friendly connections and I'd go back tomorrow if I could!
If anyone is planning a trip, consider Jamaica! It is well worth the coin. We stayed at the Sandals Royal Caribbean! Delicious for body and soul!
It is VERY easy to become absorbed into their culture. It is so in-tune with the things that I believe in. "No Worries!" "No problem, mon!" It's all good, no matter what it is. I did not see a single Jamaican soul who was harried, out-of-sorts, frazzled, or excited. They just take absolutely everything in stride!
It is a very diversified country, rich in history and heritage. They are a proud and beautiful people. They live in the moment and from their soul. It was just a very warmly enveloping place to relax and unwind and it happened VERY quickly. From the moment you hit the door, you've got your beverage in hand and you literally have 'no worries, mon'.
We enjoyed a private island for lunch and dinner on our Anniversary. We went kayaking, bob-sledding, zip-lining, sky-tramming, and did tons of exploring, walking, and photographing. We waded through local craftspeople trying to sell their wares, some of which were VERY interesting! We climbed Dunns River Falls - a highly recommended activity should you be in the area. I haven't laughed that hard, while working so vigorously, in the midst of being so inspired by natural beauty! It was absolutely fantastic!
We made some fabulous and friendly connections and I'd go back tomorrow if I could!
If anyone is planning a trip, consider Jamaica! It is well worth the coin. We stayed at the Sandals Royal Caribbean! Delicious for body and soul!
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Enjoy your journey!
I know that I have previously mentioned Mr. Emerson. I do so enjoy him and he is just brilliant!
'We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.'
It's so heart-warming to know that the things I truly believe in and try to offer up to others, have been given merit and credence by such incredible folks as the likes of Ralph Waldo Emerson! I do wish I could be as eloquent as he, but I am thrilled to bring forth those same ideals in a down-to-earth, relative manner.
We are each our own captain, steering our ships toward our own dreamy horizons. Don't ever give up the wheel. Follow your heart, drown out the naysayers, and tread where others might fear. You are special, unique, incredibly important, and valuable!
Enjoy your journey!
'We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.'
It's so heart-warming to know that the things I truly believe in and try to offer up to others, have been given merit and credence by such incredible folks as the likes of Ralph Waldo Emerson! I do wish I could be as eloquent as he, but I am thrilled to bring forth those same ideals in a down-to-earth, relative manner.
We are each our own captain, steering our ships toward our own dreamy horizons. Don't ever give up the wheel. Follow your heart, drown out the naysayers, and tread where others might fear. You are special, unique, incredibly important, and valuable!
Enjoy your journey!
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Like a pencil
Wandering through your days without smiling, without helping others, without spreading joy, without laughing, without hugging, without giving back, without paying it forward, without sacrifice, without humility, without counting your blessings, without giving thanks, without offering your hand, without hard work, without unconditional love, without prayer, without hope, without faith, without friends, without tears, without family, without learning is like an un-sharpened pencil . . .
There's just no point?
There's just no point?
Monday, July 9, 2012
React Responsibly
Reactions are one of the most normal human traits out there. But . . . they are also one of the most dangerous!
It took me having children to learn about reactions! When someone cuts you off in traffic, it's normal to reaction with . . . perhaps . . . a foul word or gesture. When someone is rude to you at work, it's normal to react with anger and indignation. When someone hurts your feelings or betrays you, it's normal to react with a healthy dose of vengeance. The problem with those normal 'reactions' is that they never help alleviate the initial problem! And, usually, they only make it worse!
When someone cuts you off in traffic, by all means let them arrive at the red light a whole six seconds before you. When someone is rude to you at work, maybe just an "I'm sorry you're having a bad day," might make them stop in their tracks to ponder your words. When someone betrays you, pray for them. They have a much deeper pain than they have intended to inflict upon you.
Taking a moment to step back, to breathe, to ingest the situation is a most helpful and resourceful tool. Ponder WHY these folks have acted the way they have. Is that crazy driver late for an important interview? Perhaps he's rushing someone to the doctor? Are you still going to get where you're going on time? Do his actions REALLY affect your life? NOPE!
The person who is rude to you at work . . . their day must be much worse than yours to be in such a snit. "Kill 'em with kindness" is what my mother used to say. I have found that when someone is truly rude and overtly obnoxious, the best thing to do is to simply be nice. Smile. Be polite. They just don't get it and, in trying to fathom how you cannot possibly be upset by their unfeeling ignorance, they loose a little of their ugliness.
When someone betrays you, pray for their soul! They are battling something; whether it is jealousy, anger, bitterness, sadness, loneliness . . . something. Don't fuel their fire. It's one of the hardest things to do, but simply walk away. Do not engage in a battle you don't and cannot understand. You won't win.
Do not REACT. Instead . . . breathe, relax, step back, and take stock of what lies before you. Is it THAT important to rant and rave? No! Is it THAT important to stoop to their level? No! Is it THAT important to 'get even'? No! Just exist with the hope that that person might learn from you.
React responsibly!
It took me having children to learn about reactions! When someone cuts you off in traffic, it's normal to reaction with . . . perhaps . . . a foul word or gesture. When someone is rude to you at work, it's normal to react with anger and indignation. When someone hurts your feelings or betrays you, it's normal to react with a healthy dose of vengeance. The problem with those normal 'reactions' is that they never help alleviate the initial problem! And, usually, they only make it worse!
When someone cuts you off in traffic, by all means let them arrive at the red light a whole six seconds before you. When someone is rude to you at work, maybe just an "I'm sorry you're having a bad day," might make them stop in their tracks to ponder your words. When someone betrays you, pray for them. They have a much deeper pain than they have intended to inflict upon you.
Taking a moment to step back, to breathe, to ingest the situation is a most helpful and resourceful tool. Ponder WHY these folks have acted the way they have. Is that crazy driver late for an important interview? Perhaps he's rushing someone to the doctor? Are you still going to get where you're going on time? Do his actions REALLY affect your life? NOPE!
The person who is rude to you at work . . . their day must be much worse than yours to be in such a snit. "Kill 'em with kindness" is what my mother used to say. I have found that when someone is truly rude and overtly obnoxious, the best thing to do is to simply be nice. Smile. Be polite. They just don't get it and, in trying to fathom how you cannot possibly be upset by their unfeeling ignorance, they loose a little of their ugliness.
When someone betrays you, pray for their soul! They are battling something; whether it is jealousy, anger, bitterness, sadness, loneliness . . . something. Don't fuel their fire. It's one of the hardest things to do, but simply walk away. Do not engage in a battle you don't and cannot understand. You won't win.
Do not REACT. Instead . . . breathe, relax, step back, and take stock of what lies before you. Is it THAT important to rant and rave? No! Is it THAT important to stoop to their level? No! Is it THAT important to 'get even'? No! Just exist with the hope that that person might learn from you.
React responsibly!
Saturday, July 7, 2012
Sometimes
When you're weary . . . feeling small . . . when tears are in your eyes . . . I'll dry them all
To those of you who are hurting, hoping, praying, and in need of some assurance, remember this:
Sometimes, good things fall apart, so better things can fall together!
To those of you who are hurting, hoping, praying, and in need of some assurance, remember this:
Sometimes, good things fall apart, so better things can fall together!
Friday, July 6, 2012
The Big Picture
As of late, I've had several people seriously complaining to me about their situation - whatever it might be. It might be their employment. It might be their schedule. It might be their health. It might be the welfare of someone they love. It might just be an opportunity to vent.
I'm all for being available. I will always be here for folks to talk to, scream at, cry on, discuss things with and just to simply coexist. I think that is vitally important in the big picture. And the big picture is what I'm asking you all to ponder.
First of all, you can complain all you want about your job, but there are gazillions of people out there that would happily and eagerly take your place. They've been searching for a long, long time. If you don't have the hours you'd like, ponder NO hours. Or ponder those salaried folks who work 80+ hours a week. If you have an ailment, please remember that there are people with much worse health issues than you. And if you're worried about sitting bedside with a loved one . . . it is much better than graveside.
The Big Picture is a broader vision. It's like putting the 13 inch black & white tv you maybe had in your college dorm a hundred years ago next to your 60 inch plasma you currently watch. The view is of the same show, but the clarity is vastly different.
I have friends who complain or are unhappy about having to go visit with their mom for an evening. I, personally, would hurt people to have that opportunity. I have friends who complain about their jobs and their paychecks, and yet they live quite nicely and comfortably in moderate homes with every amenity available to them. I have friends who are battling illnesses or injured family members and they complain about those trials and the hurdles they must overcome. Better that you are able to battle them than to succumb to no tomorrow.
The Big Picture! Be thankful for your blessings. Be vehement about your victories. Be passionate about your positives. And always remember that your current burdens may be preparing you to help someone with theirs in the future. Learn well! Enjoy the view of The Big Picture!
I'm all for being available. I will always be here for folks to talk to, scream at, cry on, discuss things with and just to simply coexist. I think that is vitally important in the big picture. And the big picture is what I'm asking you all to ponder.
First of all, you can complain all you want about your job, but there are gazillions of people out there that would happily and eagerly take your place. They've been searching for a long, long time. If you don't have the hours you'd like, ponder NO hours. Or ponder those salaried folks who work 80+ hours a week. If you have an ailment, please remember that there are people with much worse health issues than you. And if you're worried about sitting bedside with a loved one . . . it is much better than graveside.
The Big Picture is a broader vision. It's like putting the 13 inch black & white tv you maybe had in your college dorm a hundred years ago next to your 60 inch plasma you currently watch. The view is of the same show, but the clarity is vastly different.
I have friends who complain or are unhappy about having to go visit with their mom for an evening. I, personally, would hurt people to have that opportunity. I have friends who complain about their jobs and their paychecks, and yet they live quite nicely and comfortably in moderate homes with every amenity available to them. I have friends who are battling illnesses or injured family members and they complain about those trials and the hurdles they must overcome. Better that you are able to battle them than to succumb to no tomorrow.
The Big Picture! Be thankful for your blessings. Be vehement about your victories. Be passionate about your positives. And always remember that your current burdens may be preparing you to help someone with theirs in the future. Learn well! Enjoy the view of The Big Picture!
Thursday, July 5, 2012
Independence
As the haze lifts and the tell-tale odor of fireworks drifts away this morning, remember why!
As the BBQ cools and the beer goggles clear, remember why!
As you jog off the apple pie and head back to work from a day off, remember why!
INDEPENDENCE is something we take so lightly!
Don't squander your gifts and your opportunities! Tomorrow is promised to no one. Don't be a lemming.
Be who and what you have always dreamed you COULD be! There is no one stopping you . . . but you. Your independence is yours for the taking! Grab it by the cajones and do whatever you would like. Change careers. Write a novel. Take a trip. Learn something new. Read. Delight in what makes you happy.
Independence isn't just for countries . . .
As the BBQ cools and the beer goggles clear, remember why!
As you jog off the apple pie and head back to work from a day off, remember why!
INDEPENDENCE is something we take so lightly!
Don't squander your gifts and your opportunities! Tomorrow is promised to no one. Don't be a lemming.
Be who and what you have always dreamed you COULD be! There is no one stopping you . . . but you. Your independence is yours for the taking! Grab it by the cajones and do whatever you would like. Change careers. Write a novel. Take a trip. Learn something new. Read. Delight in what makes you happy.
Independence isn't just for countries . . .
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Happy 4th of July!
Happy 4th of July my friends! I hope that you enjoy yourselves safely and responsibly wherever you might be this evening. And, although the 4th would not be the same without BBQ's, apple pie, and fireworks ~ let us not forget to celebrate our Country!
Let us retreat to what our grand Nation was founded upon and for our hard fought independence. We are a great Nation with liberties and freedoms some folks only dream about. Sadly, we've taken those liberties and freedoms to extremes and seem to be minimizing our very existence. Give good thought to our Red, White, and Blue! Give praise to those who came before you and fought for all your freedoms that you can abuse if you so choose. Remember that we are still the greatest Country in the world, despite our bickering and political nonsense! We can move beyond that. We've overcome tremendous odds - and we will again.
Enjoy your burgers, your beer, your fireworks, your family, your apple pie, your ice cream, and your holiday. Remember, though, in light of Andy Griffith's passing, . . . the world needs a whole lot more 'Mayberry' and a whole lot less 'Jersey Shore'.
God bless you and the USA! Happy Independence Day!
Let us retreat to what our grand Nation was founded upon and for our hard fought independence. We are a great Nation with liberties and freedoms some folks only dream about. Sadly, we've taken those liberties and freedoms to extremes and seem to be minimizing our very existence. Give good thought to our Red, White, and Blue! Give praise to those who came before you and fought for all your freedoms that you can abuse if you so choose. Remember that we are still the greatest Country in the world, despite our bickering and political nonsense! We can move beyond that. We've overcome tremendous odds - and we will again.
Enjoy your burgers, your beer, your fireworks, your family, your apple pie, your ice cream, and your holiday. Remember, though, in light of Andy Griffith's passing, . . . the world needs a whole lot more 'Mayberry' and a whole lot less 'Jersey Shore'.
God bless you and the USA! Happy Independence Day!
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
'A Little Ch-Angel'
There are those days when you are running in high gear, speeding through your day with lots on your plate, with only the few spare seconds of one moment to plan what you'll be doing the next. Those are the times, most often, when I find that God puts road blocks in your way to force you to stop and take inventory of the good stuff in your life! Far too often we are moving too swiftly to admire the scenery and our blessings.
Yesterday, amid the myriad of 'things to do,' I was grocery shopping . . . only to be contemplating about what still needed to be done at home. All I wanted was an onion. I waited patiently while the woman with her cart parked directly in front of all the onions browsed. When she finished, she looked at me and stared. Uh oh! She spoke, "I know you."
Now I have come across many, many folks in all my years of working and volunteering. If I had my husband's memory, I could come up with names at the drop of a hat. Unfortunately, I remember faces, but names always elude me. Turns out she is the housekeeper for my son's girlfriend's family. So I was forced to listen, for a good ten or more minutes, about what an incredible son I have! That was torture! :-)
In the frozen foods, another familiar face without a name. Dangit! This one spoke as well, to her grand daughter, "She's gonna walk right by and not even say 'hi!'." So, of course, I stop. It was my neighbor, a lovely soul who just is a peach. We chatted for a while and now my thoughts for later on are a bit more scattered and frayed.
And then . . . boom . . . right smack dab into another friend whom I have known for a good solid decade . . . a 'Little' Ch-Angel. Our kids have grown up together and this woman, as I pondered a little later on, has always been a wonderful friend to me. She literally supported me when Miles was sick and going through treatment. She helped me through more times than I can remember. She supported all of our fundraising antics and I even turned her on to a few extras that I believe she's still enjoying. She was willing to stand up for me, in the midst of the 'i-pod fundraising scandal', and came to stand by me through what ended up being a serious inquisition. She dragged me through the streets of Vegas and for three days we just laughed and had a fabulous time. She and I have trudge through college admissions nonsense together and tons more . . . together. Outside activities tend to keep us moving in different circles, but rest assured that on any given day, when we meet up again, my 'Little' Ch-Angel brings a smile to my face and a warmth to my heart.
Her kindness is a wonderful magic that I adore. She is generous, to a fault; steadfast, to the point of scary; and loyal, like a Labrador. She is a beautiful spirit, rich in heart and love with a radiant smile that lights up every day. Thanks, my 'Little' Ch-Angel, for making me stop and take notice of the blessings I have all around me.
The rest of yesterday kind of melted into chaos . . . and I did not care! :-)
Yesterday, amid the myriad of 'things to do,' I was grocery shopping . . . only to be contemplating about what still needed to be done at home. All I wanted was an onion. I waited patiently while the woman with her cart parked directly in front of all the onions browsed. When she finished, she looked at me and stared. Uh oh! She spoke, "I know you."
Now I have come across many, many folks in all my years of working and volunteering. If I had my husband's memory, I could come up with names at the drop of a hat. Unfortunately, I remember faces, but names always elude me. Turns out she is the housekeeper for my son's girlfriend's family. So I was forced to listen, for a good ten or more minutes, about what an incredible son I have! That was torture! :-)
In the frozen foods, another familiar face without a name. Dangit! This one spoke as well, to her grand daughter, "She's gonna walk right by and not even say 'hi!'." So, of course, I stop. It was my neighbor, a lovely soul who just is a peach. We chatted for a while and now my thoughts for later on are a bit more scattered and frayed.
And then . . . boom . . . right smack dab into another friend whom I have known for a good solid decade . . . a 'Little' Ch-Angel. Our kids have grown up together and this woman, as I pondered a little later on, has always been a wonderful friend to me. She literally supported me when Miles was sick and going through treatment. She helped me through more times than I can remember. She supported all of our fundraising antics and I even turned her on to a few extras that I believe she's still enjoying. She was willing to stand up for me, in the midst of the 'i-pod fundraising scandal', and came to stand by me through what ended up being a serious inquisition. She dragged me through the streets of Vegas and for three days we just laughed and had a fabulous time. She and I have trudge through college admissions nonsense together and tons more . . . together. Outside activities tend to keep us moving in different circles, but rest assured that on any given day, when we meet up again, my 'Little' Ch-Angel brings a smile to my face and a warmth to my heart.
Her kindness is a wonderful magic that I adore. She is generous, to a fault; steadfast, to the point of scary; and loyal, like a Labrador. She is a beautiful spirit, rich in heart and love with a radiant smile that lights up every day. Thanks, my 'Little' Ch-Angel, for making me stop and take notice of the blessings I have all around me.
The rest of yesterday kind of melted into chaos . . . and I did not care! :-)
Monday, July 2, 2012
Ordinary?
There are no 'ordinary' moments . . . only ordinary minds!
Yesterday, I spent the day on the boat with hubby! Because of recent storms, fishing was not too good. The winds were kicking up quite a bit so we didn't venture much beyond the barrier islands. The water was a little less colorful than normal because everything's been so churned up. But it was an absolutely incredible day!
The dolphins were out in force yesterday. One of my most favorite creatures, we encountered at least a dozen and each one was just as beautifully captivating as the next. Hubby was especially schmoozy and attentive and just made me all melty all day long.
We docked at Caladesi and wandered around the island for a while. There were many signs regarding leaving the gopher turtles alone. I said, "I wanna see a gopher turtle." Vic said, "OK!" Before we reached the beach, he called me over to where he was standing and . . . voila . . . a gopher turtle.
We left and did a little more non-fishing and sunbathing and simple co-existing! It was glorious! There was nothing super spectacular about the day . . . other than choosing to see all the spectacular things I have before me!
Don't accept 'ordinary'. Make your day spectacular!
Yesterday, I spent the day on the boat with hubby! Because of recent storms, fishing was not too good. The winds were kicking up quite a bit so we didn't venture much beyond the barrier islands. The water was a little less colorful than normal because everything's been so churned up. But it was an absolutely incredible day!
The dolphins were out in force yesterday. One of my most favorite creatures, we encountered at least a dozen and each one was just as beautifully captivating as the next. Hubby was especially schmoozy and attentive and just made me all melty all day long.
We docked at Caladesi and wandered around the island for a while. There were many signs regarding leaving the gopher turtles alone. I said, "I wanna see a gopher turtle." Vic said, "OK!" Before we reached the beach, he called me over to where he was standing and . . . voila . . . a gopher turtle.
We left and did a little more non-fishing and sunbathing and simple co-existing! It was glorious! There was nothing super spectacular about the day . . . other than choosing to see all the spectacular things I have before me!
Don't accept 'ordinary'. Make your day spectacular!
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