Do NOT Be Defined

Your past does NOT define you. Your past does NOT create the person you CAN become. Whatever has gone on in your rear view, can create a wonderfully positive vista before you ~ if you so choose! The decision is yours.

I come from what some call a 'broken' home. My mother remarried twice. I have four real brothers, two step-brothers, and had three VERY different dads. One was almost always very sleepy when he was in our house due to alcohol consumption. One would dictate about such mundane and ridiculous things as whether to use a knife or a spoon in jelly. One was, understandably, so old fashioned it was pitiful trying to drag him into this day and age. I have had several abusive relationships with folks, in many facets. I have been robbed of my trust on countless occasions. I have been lied to, cheated on, left alone, brokenhearted, mocked, teased, mistreated, malnourished, jobless, overworked, and a million other horrible things. There is really no reason why I couldn't be a miserable, mean-spirited, nasty, negative, mistrusting, bitchy, old hag . . . other than the fact that I simply CHOOSE to rise above the immorality, the unfavorable, and the evil. I CHOOSE to take note of the positive things that have occurred in my life.

I believe that no matter your circumstances, there are positives before you. Unmistakably wonderful things that have happened to you. Are you awake and able to read this. There's TWO fabulous things! Do you have a job? Super! You don't? What is stopping you from taking ANY position available? Pride? You have to begin somewhere. Sit before you crawl. Crawl before you walk. Walk before you run. And each is a triumph worthy of celebration and JOY!

Oscar Pistorius, the double amputee Olympic athlete, was sitting in his room as a child playing with his brother. (This is actual verbiage from the interview done during the Olympics.) His mother would come in and say, "Time for school," and to his brother, "put your shoes on." And to Oscar, "Put your legs on." It was never a handicap, just a part of his day. A Ch-Angel for sure! Do NOT be defined by how the world views you. Become the person YOU want to be.

The choice is yours!